It is true that all roads lead to the light, but while walking with grief, we can take wrong turns. A wrong turn is one that causes or increases our pain and makes our passage more difficult. These dark passages actually keep us from our loved one and from understanding the depth of our loss. They become our obstacles. Sometimes we need to head in the wrong direction for a while, if only to have the contrast seared into our consciousness when, at last, we turn back toward the light. The light that falls over grieving people is strong and bright; it will always guide us home. 

Here are the most common wrong turns.